The “Have To’s”—Messages of Stress
We need to change the self-talk of ‘I have to’.
The “Should’s”—Messages of Depression
If we always said should, we will fell into depression because the ‘should’ corporate many negative minds like I don’t agree, I don’t have a bright future, I don’t like. So change the self-dialogue and make the should image to ‘choose’, you will have freedom.
THE POWER OF CHOICE
The author shares his experience of jumping, he changed his mind from ‘have to’ to “I choose to exit the plane safely” and “I don’t want to be kicked out of the plane” when he jumping for the first time.
From Resistance to Commitment
If we know our tasks are our commitment and our choice because we prefer them to the consequences not finish them.
Learning How to Say No
You know your self-respect and worth, You don’t have to say “I guess I have to do”, you just say “no”.
FIVE SELF-STATEMENTS THAT DISTINGUISH PROCRASTINATORS FROM PRODUCERS
Negative thinking of “I have to” and “I must finish”.
You just need to know “when can I start?” or “how can I start?”
Some people also see the task is very important, but you should just focus on “I can take one small step”.
Don’t think about perfect performance, you just think I could be perfectly human.
You can intentionally try to be imperfect.
Never thinking ” I don’t have time to play”, You just say ” I must have time to play”.